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Grief - holo_daxy
I meant to update my LJ last weekend but my granddad was taken into hospital and we spent the week waiting for news. My parents just phoned me and told me that he died peacefully this morning. It's good, because he wasn't really him any more; Alzheimer's had gradually eroded the man I grew up with and he was practically housebound, which for a man who'd always enjoyed his sport was akin to torture. So I'm glad he's not suffering any more, but I'm still sad. Although he was a selfish man, he was always loving and kind towards me and until my cousin Jack was born, I was his favourite grandchild. My dad's father died when he was 11 so my granddad was the only grandfather I had growing up (but I had 3 grandmothers - my mother's mother, my mother's stepmother and my father's mother) and now I won't have that again (unless I find a partner with a living grandparent).

I'm postponing my life update for a little while but I will be back.

Lots and lots of hugs for you, dear. <3

Thank you, Jules. Much appreciated. <3

Thanks, Vi. You're always there when I need a supportive friend. :)

♥ i'm so sorry for your loss. i'll definitely keep you and your family in mind, and stay strong:)

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Oh honey, I'm so sorry for your loss. Which has been double. First you lost him to Alzheimer, and now you lost him physically. nod grandpa to hug any longer. It's a sad part of growing up, having our grandparents leave us. But at least you had him for a long time. *big, big hugs*

It wasn't as bad as it could have been, because he and my step-grandmother moved away a few years ago to the Isle of Wight, so I only saw them a couple of times a year after that and missed the real degeneration. But you're right, he was around for a really long time and I couldn't have got through secondary school without him. *hug*

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At least it was peaceful, but I'm still sad. (Don't need to explain to you, I think.)

so sorry to hear this :( you know we're here for you, dear!

I'm so sorry, chica. :( It's hard to balance the "glad he's not suffering" with the "sad he's not here."

Hang in there, yeah?

Thanks, Kate. Currently listening to "The White Cliffs of Dover" and letting myself feel sad. *hug*

Thank you, Kit. *hugs back* I know you understand. When my dad goes, I'm going to be in pieces.

Oh dear, I'm so very sorry ... This must be incredibly hard for you and your family, dealing with so much loss within the past year. Do try to take care of yourself and definitely take your time. Sending thoughts and prayers to you and your family ...

My grandad was nearly 91 so this isn't as much of a shock as my uncle's death, and it's on my mother's side rather than my dad's, but still sad, yes. Thanks for your thoughts and prayers.

*hugs* I missed my grandfather terribly when he died. It is a unique relationship. I hope your good memories of him will bring you comfort in the days to come. You have all my sympathy.

He's the only grandfather I had growing up, as I wrote above, so he was doubly special to me. My mum was very close to him so I am a bit worried about how she's taking this, although she says she's glad he's not suffering any more and I believe her. Thank you for your kind words. *hug*

I'm so very sorry, honey. :( *hugs tightly* I only knew my maternal grandad, and he died when I was three, but I still miss him and wish he'd been around longer.

Yeah. I lost my maternal grandmother when I was eleven and still wonder what it would have been like if she'd lived a bit longer.

I'm so sorry for your loss. :(

*hugs* I'm so sorry for you and your family's loss.